If I let you all in on a little secret, you promise not to tell?
Remember when you were a kid and a friend of yours would come up and say, “Hey! Hey! I got a secret! But you can’t tell nobody because I promised so and so that I wouldn’t tell nobody! But I can trust you, right?”
You, of course, nod your head in agreement because you’re a very trustworthy person, aren’t you?
But, as soon as the secret is finished being whispered in your ear, your stomach gets little butterflies flying around and your mind gets to whirling about. Then, you find yourself whispering in another friend’s ear.
I said all of that just to make a point I forgot while I was writing it.
Damn! Okay. So, I was thinking about shady behavior.
Shady behavior is when someone acts in a way that causes you to question the true motive of the person. This is when you start questioning whether or not you can trust them.
For example, are you thinking they are hiding something just because they like to make phone calls while standing outside on the porch?
Are they hiding something because they keep their phone is on vibrate all the time?
Are they hiding something because they never just say what they mean and mean what they say?
You haven’t actually caught them doing anything wrong. So, are you overly suspicious or are they doing something wrong?
Without trust there can be no relationship.
Are they behaving in a way to cause you to be distrustful?
How do you decide?
I don’t know the answer to these questions but I can tell you this:
- If you’re being overly suspicious, it’s because you don’t trust them. If you don’t trust them, there’s no relationship.
- If they’re hiding something, you can’t trust them. If there’s no trust, there’s no relationship.
So, I guess the answer to these questions doesn’t really matter. Breaking up is all that’s left to do.
Although, even after the break-up you still need to figure out if you’re being overly suspicious or not cuz you don’t want to take that into the next relationship.
Until next time…